Happy? Birthday to me.

I feel as I’ve gotten older I’ve enjoyed my birthday less and less. I’ve always had this false sense of how life should be magical and perfect (Damn fairytales) but it seems that it doesn’t really matter how low I set my expectations. I always get a bit let down.

The song “Its my birthday ill cry if I want to” sums me up really… I can’t actually remember the last birthday I didn’t cry for some reason or another.

Life doesn’t get to stop for a birthday anymore now I’m a mum, as much as it’s my day (not this year, thanks easter) I’m still mum, I still have my mummy duties (which I love…sometimes) and I think it just seems silly to try and make it all about me.

Maybe I’m selfish thinking it’s MY day? Sometimes I miss having days that I can just do what I want although when I do get the rare few hours off I don’t know what to do with myself!

Do you allow time for yourself?? How do you balance being a mum and doing things you love and enjoy?

Did you find it hard to ‘find’ yourself when you became a mum?

Until the next post,
Are and Pops.


  1. cheskaaanels
    March 31, 2016 / 10:13 am

    Awwh no you arenMt being selfish thinking your birthday should be all about you! Your birthday after all is because of you! I’m exactly the same, my birthday means a lot to me. My partner and I prioritise birthdays over christmas when it comes to gifts for eachother (both our birthdays are in December too!) its important to me to have a great birthday! I’m a mum of 2 so I know all too well how hard it is to have time for yourself but it is a must have sometimes! We need to refresh and have some much needed us time even if it is once in a while! My birthday just gone my husband looked after the kids and booked me into a hair salon to have a complete makeover, I went shopping & we then went out for dinner in the evening, it was without a doubt the best birthday I’ve ever had everyone made it really special. I saw everyone special to me and got to spend time with the kids as well as getting my own time 🙂

    • April 1, 2016 / 9:24 am

      I love that you both put so much effort in! I didn’t put much effort into his this year and he said he was pretty disappointed (only year I haven’t cheeky sod) but I think we defo need to make each other feel appreciated even if it is only a couple of times a year… well its a start haha x

  2. March 31, 2016 / 10:14 am

    It’s definitely not selfish to want your birthday to be your day! I usually try to arrange something fun for my birthday but there are always chores to be done too!

    • April 1, 2016 / 9:22 am

      I think because this year it was on easter I felt like there was no point making plans. I think next year I need to get a baby sitter and go do something!

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